I like a boy who is straight. is it ok to approach him?

He is so cute and i can't act with him. Please tell me can i approach him for a date.

Is It OK To?
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  • Absolutely.follow your heart

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  • If he's straight I wouldn't bother unless you want things to be awkward.

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  • i doubt very serious its a date you want , its sex. ask him ever he has ever had gay sex, if yes, your in.

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  • But he is a colleague of mine. I have that fear if he tell this to the other colleagues

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    • This is NOT a good idea! Surely you don't have to act on all your attractions when it's inappropriate for two reasons: one he's straight, two he's a work colleague.

      Why not confine your attractions to people you know are gay?

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    • You have to decide for yourself if it's worth the risk. But if you decide not to risk it, I think you'll always wonder.

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  • Back off completely. There was a guy who professed he had a crush on some straight guy on a talk show back in the 90's. I can't remember the name of the show. The straight guy murdered the gay man who he thought publicly shamed him.
    Stick to your own. hitting on straight guys could very hazardous to your health. Here it is. It happened in 1995.

    Scott Bernard Amedure (January 26, 1963 – March 9, 1995) was an American murder victim who was fatally shot after revealing on The Jenny Jones Show that he was attracted to an acquaintance.[1] The acquaintance — Jonathan Schmitz (born July 18, 1970), who had a long-standing history of mental illness — later shot Amedure and was found guilty of second degree murder. The Amedure family, retaining Geoffrey Fieger as lawyer, sued The Jenny Jones Show for wrongful death, but the judgment was subsequently overturned by the Michigan Court of Appeals.

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    • You're being somewhat melodramatic, aren't you? Surely not every straight guy approached by a gay guy murders him?

      If the other person isn't interested he'll say so, but if OP wants to be friends in the future he'd be better off not approaching him.

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      • I don't think so. I'm a straight male with lots of straight male friends and I know they would kick the shit out of any gay male that came on to them. I once had one come on to me when I was in the Army. He persisted after I said no, so I beat the hell out of him. And I didn't get in any trouble even though he reported it. Perhaps things are different where you live. I'm just saying it's foolish to make an unwanted sexual advance to a straight male by a gay male and I stand by that statement.

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        • I agree it's foolish, but just as well women don't react with violence to unwanted sexual attention or there'd be a lot of dead straight men in the world.

          Some states in Australia used to have a law that made it a valid defence to murder if the victim had made a homosexual pass at the murderer, but I'm fairly sure the last state to have it abolished it not very long ago

          So yeah, foolish, but hardly a justification for assault or murder!

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  • I have approached many "straight" women and while they claimed to be straight, the walls and myself know otherwise.

    You just never know before you try. Go with your heart and gut.

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    • It's different for men. A truly straight guy would never think about the other side. But is he really sure he's straight?

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      • I wouldn't be so sure. I have watched supposedly straight guys blow each other in order to be part of an orgy.

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        • I agree with Funkin. If you’ve seen straight guys do this, they presented straight, but were bi or closeted gay all along. No straight guy I know would blow another guy except maybe at gun point.
          Besides, read down a bit the OP did it and it imploded.

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        • You're only gay if you swallow, right?

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          • I believe kissing is the requirement for whether or not it's considered gay. Just my opinion tho.

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          • Naw. Your gay if you gargle and then swallow. But seriously, lots of straight men have sex with other men. I know guys who'll fuck a knot in a tree. I think nikkiclaire is right. Kissing is the cut-off line between gay and straight IMO also.

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  • Guys but he said ok. He said i want to try... We had a date... But i never Expected that he Even had a sexual relationship. After that he said we will do it secretly ..dont tell anyone about this... I can't believe this till now ..is he a straight or bi or a Gay... Totally confused

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  • You can if you want to, he might say yes just for a one night stand, but please don't expect it to grow into anything more. I've had to many broken hearts falling for straight people...

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  • Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. ;)

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  • People... I have approached him but he said " i will slap you if it is not office"... Don't come again and say this again . I am ready to kill you"... How rude he is... I am so upset

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    • I told you. He's straight, and not interested. There was no reason to ask him except to make things awkward. If I were you I'd leave him alone before he reported me for sexual harassment.

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    • Well now you have your answer, don't you? That was a silly and potentially damaging thing to do for the reasons i gave in my earlier post: one, he's straight and two, he's a work colleague.

      You need to learn to control your impulses: it's not imperative to act on every sexual urge when it's clearly inappropriate

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    • How did you approach him btw?

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    • Well there is your answer. Sorry it didn't work out for you but respect his wishes.

      At least you tried and can now move on. Easy peasy.

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  • Tell him you're into him.

    If his reaction is to run 5 miles, don't go near him again unless it's absolutely necessary.

    If his reaction is an element of surprise coinciding with a raised eyebrow but nevertheless he's willing to try anything once, go ahead and see if you can hit it off.

    In this day and age where diversity is tolerated by the majority of society, only bigots will judge you for being what they percieve as "different", so have at it.

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  • Absolutely. I'd rather regret what I did, than regret what I didn't do. If you don't at least try, you'll always wish you had.

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