Is it ok that i want to be someone else?

I'm 25 male, Athletic. Don't want to be me. But I want to change but don't know how to start the change. (Confused very Much) Everything that I do turns in to the fail.
I give up easily and it's hard to keep on going when I fail and also lacking motivation. Fucking I don't understand how to overcome this shitty mindset, how people find the strength in themselves. Should I read books more or maybe exercise more or study math or join the military or find a hobby. Really How to approach life correctly.x)

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  • i agree with you 100 percent. if i could do it over i pick a shitty little tourist island and get a bartending job. personally i just watched a video of how these men built the panama canal 600 men died per mile , not one was a god damn motivated woman. motivated people are fucking nuts . you wind up dying for fucking nothing. yea join the goddamn navy and die sleeping in your bunk like the 20 that died last year. i bet they were motivated too.

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    • LOL, Oh SHIT that's funny :)

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    • Strong answer. (Unusual) Maybe it's time for me to find something small and stick to it. Like a barbering and maybe one day open your own shop so that it serves to me as motivation to wake up.

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  • One of the best things I did in my life for myself was joining the Navy. I have been halfway around the world twice. I did 7 years and have been to countries that many only dream of. It will help you gain confidence, it will teach you how to do things, and it will help you learn to be responsible as an adult. You can excellent and end up being in charge of stuff you never dreamed of. There are things like security, counterintelligence, computers, so much to learn. If you are at a virtual dead end, you get paid to go places and see the world. The Coast Guard watches our coastal waters and they get to just a lot of the bad guys snuggling dope across the waters. I joined at 18 years old. And truthfully, I would never have seen Singapore, Thailand, Philippines, or even Hong Kong if I had not been in the Navy. But to each their own. But you get paid while learning and you have time to study other aspects of life and figure out what you want to do. And Veterans get many extra benefits when you are out. Good luck

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  • What is it you want in life? Or do you like doing nothing?

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    • There is something, it's very ''bleak'' but still a feeling. I want to work for myself. I have this idea of becoming a proper ''barber'' and open my shop one day. But I have these feeling that this will fade away the same as my other feelings to become a mechanic or join the army, policeman, fireman.

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      • If you are in an endless loop, and stuck, the best thing I feel you can do to learn a trade, confidence, and learn about yourself and your abilities and learn to push yourself to be better and do better. I would say try the military, Air Force,Army,Navy, Marines. There are so many different things you can learn. After you are done, then Veterans get really good loans to start a business, or buy a home, etc. One of the BEST THINGS I feel is when someone at the store or at the gas station or wherever looks at you and says "Thank You for Your Service". Then in them foreign countries you even get to have fun, meet some women in those countries.

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        • Hey But I always thought that military is not something where you go for benefits. What about deployments and that kind of aspects? Is it wrong to think that even if you get in, there is a big percentage that you might not come back alive or crippled. Or May understanding is completely wrong about military?

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          • I was on ships most of my time in. I was a firefighter, welder, carpenter, and in charge of the repair locker I was assigned to. Very few incidents have happened where the guys on a ship was injured or killed. Recently the ship that collided with that cargo freighter. Those type of things are so very rare. 24/7 when a navy ship is out to sea there are roving sounding and security watches, there are watches up on the bridge (where the ship is controlled from like a really big drivers seat. On each side of the Bridge there is a watch, all watches rotate every 4 hours. The bridge watch is responsible to do just that, a lookout Watch , for anything that may interfere with the operation and direction of the ship. True it does get to be a pain sometimes, but that is all part of the process of learning who you are and what you can really do and they really like if you are good at your job. I'm just saying that those watches and the other stuff that we go thru in the military is all a stepping stone along the path in our live's to get to where we are going. I would honestly do it all again the same if I could or had the choice. As for the benefits, you can start saving for college almost from your fist 3 months I believe. When people talk about benefits, there is school after you get out of you can do some schooling free while you are active duty. After you are out, if you decide to buy a house, the loan rate for a VA loan instead of another
            lender could be as much difference as maybe $100- $250 per month payment less with a va loan. Many car dealers now give an additional $1000 or more discount on new vehicles. Some states offer free hunting and fishing license for veterans. If you really look around and listen in stores you will see there are so many businesses that offer discounts to veterans.

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            • O man You see I have lived in UK 5 years I am eligible to apply for a citizen ship to become UK citizen. I still have to go threw this to get in to the military. I'm Latvian who lives in United Kingdom. Interesting USA and UK Navy, Could it be the same thing?

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