Is it ok to be mean to people if your trying to save them from heartbreak?

Once I become friends with guys they usually start to catch feelings for me. It sucks because I can no longer be natural around them and their feelings make me uncomfortable. I usually just start avoiding/ignorning them. I'm not necessarily mean to them, I just blow them off. Is it justified if I'm just trying to save them from heartbreak/embarrassment/rejection?

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  • I think it's much kinder just to tell them straight that you don't want to be in a relationship with them.

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  • What stops you from just telling them honestly that you're only interested in friendship? If you're a good friend to them that would be the respectful and mature thing to do, rather than being nasty to them.

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  • Well if the chances of them getting a heart break are too high, and you really care for the person and dont want them to suffer a painful heart break, its fine and you are doing it for their best interest, even if you are rude to them, it wont hurt them as much as a painful heart break would. But you must be confirmed about the case (like their partner is actually cheating on them or something), and dont accuse anyone without any real proof and that would be truly bad hand harmful if you wrongly suspect someone on the verge of having a heart break and rudely tell them off when there was really no actual need to...

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  • It's ok, but I think it's better to say openly that you just aren't interested. They might think they did something wrong, or still have hope this way

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  • You're doing it right. Keep that up.

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  • I think that it's easier if they know exactly why. Honesty is my policy, so I usually just tell them the truth. They may get hurt, but at least they know the truth.

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