Is it ok to hate ur bfs friends

I dislike my bfs friends. But there’s one guy in particular that I absolutely despise. And my bf gets mad when I make mean remarks at him. But my bf is 28, this guy is 40. And HE IS SO IMMATURE. He has no wife or kids, lives by the beach in an apartment and literally parties and snapchats himself like at girls places and is just so disrespectful. Whenever my bf posts a picture of us he always has to say like “sooo gay” he’s 40!!! He has a nice job and stuff but he literally goes to like 21 year old bars and does nothing with my bf and his friends besides like drink and go out. And my bf has been hanging out with him more often and it bugs me and I don’t know how to get over it :( advice ?

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  • You again? Do you even have a bf or just some fetish for people telling you you’re in a shitty relationship?

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  • Stop being jealous?

    If you wanna see your bf more just tell him

    Otherwise, they're doing nothing wrong

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    • Is seeing his friends 1-2 times a week a lot ?

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      • No.

        If anything, it's not that much.

        Just let him hang out with his friends. If you try to isolate him, he might end up resenting you for it.

        And that could turn the relationship sour. Until you two end up having a fight over built-up emotions, and possibly ruining the relationship altogether.

        A relationship is best when two people just let each other still have their own freedom. Together of course, but still able to chat and socialize with other people.

        You gotta feel free in a relationship, or else it might not work out.

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  • It's normal for your partner to have friends you don't like but in no way should you tell him he cannot hang out with his friends. It's controlling and ridiculous because when people get into relationships they have previous lives that they should not be expected to leave behind. That is very unhealthy for someone to do.

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  • Happy birthday to you and the bf.

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    • What

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      • All of your other post you are 19 and he is 27 now you are 20 and he is 28. Oh wait this is a completely different person complaining about the exact same thing I forgot...

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  • Yeah, it's normal to not like your stupid boyfriend's douchebag friend, but you can either accept this bullshit, or dump your guy and findx someone better.

    Here's a new twist, maybe your asshole boyfriend and his older friend are totally gay for each other? Maybe all the stuff about hot chicks is just a cover?

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  • How old are you?

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    • 20

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      • Just saying , from how you come off it sounds like I sense some jealousy. I can be wrong but thats how I took it . Give us more information . Does your bff soend alot more time with him than you ?

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        • He didn’t spend a lot of time with his friend as much but for some reason they’re hanging out like 1-2 times a week for a couple hours. I see him like 4-5 Days a week though. But it’s weird that he’s wanting to hang with him more and going out more often...

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          • Hmm theres gotta be more to it than theyr telling you then. Just be straight up with your friend or ask in a nonchalant way if you dont want to be direct . What do does your gut felling tell you ?

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            • He’s not my friend. It’s my bfs guy friend who’s 40. I just don’t know why they’re hanging out more often

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      • You probably need to hang with younger ppl.

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        • What. Why

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          • You’re too young to get into clubs with adults. You’re jealous of nonsensical bullshit and your bf is bi-curious with an older man that you cannot possibly compete with either sexually or financially. Stick with ppl your own age.

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  • How does that go ? "Can't we all just get along?" And the answer is short and sweet - No. There is going to be friction between people now and then. If your bf cannot respect your opinion maybe you can find another opinion, in another guy somewhere. If it's a serious relationship there HAS TO BE RESPECT for each other and each others thoughts feelings etc. I assume you and bf live together.? It's hard to just "deal" with things sometimes. It sounds like your bf is a follower, he enjoys the older person to either follow or try and look up to. For whatever reason. Seriously tho, you need to lay it out to bf how you feel. But, tell him you are serious and he needs to respect your thoughts etc. If he cannot do that, then it would be obvious that he would rather have respect for the 40yo. Which in turn would say he has very little or no respect for how you think or feel. Main thing- If it's there staring you in the face DON'T BE AFRAID TO ADMIT IT TO YOURSELF.

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    • So what should I say

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      • I'm order for a relationship to work there HAS GOT TO BE A RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER. You can tell him if he won't respect your thoughts etc. then tell him he can go sleep with and get sex from the 40 yo dude. There needs to be something there to make him seriously stop and think about what can happen or not by his decision.

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      • Just tell him how and what you feel. I had a brother that died in 1999. He was an asshole. Another sister in law didn't like him visiting when out brother (her husband) wasn't there. The brother had a spirit of perversion about him. So whatever it is that bothers you about him, the fact your bf tried to emulate him or follow him and his actions. If nothing else you can always give your bf the old's "hell I don't know yet, but there is something about him that just does not set right. It gives you the creeps, or whatever. If your bf can't respect your feeling and stuff then you cut him off from sex. And he should need to show you some respect before you allow him to park his junk in your trunk.

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        • Her boyfriend is doing nothing wrong.

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          • Maybe not in face value. But his friends and her don't get along, there's friction between them. He's putting her in an uncomfortable situation. He doesn't try and help the situation. To me that's doing something wrong. He doesn't respect her at all. That's doing something wrong.

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            • Where'd you get all this information from?

              Sounds like your making stuff up.

              There's nothing wrong with him having friends. How does he not respect her?

              How do you know they dont get along? And who says they have to agree on everything anyway?

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  • not having a wife and kids at age fourty is smart not stupid. Your a female and your sex life will be in the dumpster by age 40. that means a man will have a sexless marriage for the last 40 years of his life. fuck that shit. marry a 20 year old when you are 40 so your dick falls off the same time her eggs dry up.

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    • Please start visiting schools as a sex/relationship educator and give lectures to the students, it would make assembly suck a lot less.

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