Is it ok to keep bothering my neighbor to loan me money?

I'm having trouble finding work, and I need my blood pressure pills to keep my blood pressure from getting very high. I can't find anyone anymore who will loan me money, and my neighbor is the only one who's done it. But, now he's sick of it because I've asked him to loan me money too many times (and I haven't paid all of it back, I haven't been able to afford to). But I have to have my blood pressure pills. I've applied for disability, but it's a long wait waiting for me to get it. I'm having trouble finding a job. My blood pressure gets dangerously high without my pills. Considering my circumstances, does my neighbor have a right to be pissed off by how many times I've knocked on his door bothering him?

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  • This is why you should never feed a stray you don't plan on adopting.

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  • Hes probably struggling with money himself, I would be pissed off too.

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    • He told me he's not struggling with money, he's just tired of me bothering him.

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    • He's now talking shit about going to the leasing office and getting me thrown out of my apartment. Can a neighbor succeed in making that happen for me knocking on his door too many times? Even if it's about helping me get medication that I need to survive?

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      • That just doesnt seem right for him to do that to you. Getting kicked out of your home seems horrible. Would you be happy to ask for donations on websites such as... Gofund me? Because there are lots and lots of lovely people out there around the world who are willing to help people like you because I know you definitely need the money and deserve it as your life is very important just like everyone else. Once you have the right amount of money you can pay for your medication, pay him back and everything should be good between you two and definitely pay for anything else that you need. I know how you feel and the struggles you have to cope with as I have a dad who has high blood pressure too which has given him strokes and he cant work. I know how you feel.

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        • Why don't you send him the money he needs for his pills? I am sure he would rally appreciate it.

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          • I was asking him to lend me money for my pills.

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            • That comment wasn't for you. Look where the little line points to to see what comment ges where. It was for IndieIsAwsome. Unless you are also IndieIsAwsome.

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        • I'll check out gofund me. I'm sure that my neighbor is trying to throw me out of my apartment now, because to him, he's started believing that he can't even sit down to relax, watch TV, or whatever without the unsettled thought that he's gonna be interrupted again at any moment by me knocking. I may be broke and in desperate need of help, but he's gotten to where he thinks it's just not his problem anymore and he simply can't handle being interrupted by me anymore.

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          • Well it's not really his problem and it sounds as if you've worn out your welcome with him. If you don't want him to try & have you kicked out (and possibly succeed) I suggest you thank him for his generosity in the past and sincerely apologize for bothering him so often.

            Do you not have family or friends who could help you out financially? It's a mistake to expect one person to continually help you over and over.

            It must be terrible living in a country with no public health care. High blood pressure can be life threatening: I have it too and have had one heart attack, but I now have it well controlled with medication, exercise and meditation. I'm so glad I live in Australia, where on a government pension I don't pay anything to see my doctor and my medication is government subsidized.

            Also, do some googling for nutritional ways to reduce high blood pressure: beetroot is one I know of and don't in any circumstances eat licorice, as it raises blood pressure.

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            • I'm sorry to hear you had a heart attack. I was always told that very high blood pressure increases likelihood more for stroke than heart attack. Stroke has always seemed even scarier than a heart attack because of maybe half of your mind being distorted and you being all jibbering and not able to talk correctly anymore with half of your mouth and one of your eye's drooping down. Your mind going is the scariest thing to me. When you have a heart attack, you still can think, talk, and mentally function normally. I'm more afraid of a mentally disabling stroke and surviving it than I am from dying from one.

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  • He has perfect reason to be annoyed with you, and he didn't have to give you anything.

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  • Your neighbor is entitled to feel however the fuck he wants about your harassment.

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    • I realize now how he must feel when I try to put myself in his shoes, with all the knocking on his door bothering him about my different problems that really aren't his problem, and me borrowing money from him again and again and still now haven't paid him all of it back yet. This is what I'll do, I won't go near him or his apartment door again, unless it's to pay him back the money I owe him. At the moment, I've managed to make him fucking hate me, haven't I?

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  • of course he has a right to be pissed off. You're not entitled to his money even for meds. you're online.. so have internet but can't afford life sustaining meds? whatever. and if you're at a library for free internet, look for a job instead of playing on this site. you're a fucking parasite.

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    • I guess I can understand your response. What I did was kinda fucked up. The good thing is I've found a job now and have paid my neighbor back. As for my internet service, I wasn't able to pay for it at the time and I was cut off for about a week and a half before I got my paycheck for my new job. Things are better now. No hard feelings for your comment, I've gotten used to and you expect that on website discussions.

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  • Knowbody owes you.
    The idea that it's medicine doesn't change that.
    Your problems aren't his, or anyone else's.
    I've seen hard times.
    I don't bum.
    Have some self respect, provide for yourself.

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    • I've been trying to get work, I'm having trouble getting a job.

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  • How about working more? That's what I do when I struggle.

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    • See my response to TerriAngel.

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      • What have you tried? What else can you try?

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        • I was trying just about every job opening for everything I could possibly get for some time. I finally found a job now

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  • Once in a while, it's fine. Speaking as one who too often gives when asked, I can tell you..It gets old fast. I don't mind helping, and have done so many times lately, but, when the person comes to expect it, or tries to negotiate for more (one of my female friends did that with me one night..I offered x amount, and she kept asking for more..Finally told her, this is it, take it or leave it), the giver will stop cold. I also never give any more than I can reasonably afford to eat, since I know the money is never coming back.

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  • Read your lease or rental agreement. Most landlords can kick you out for no reason at all, and give you a sixty day notice to vacate by law. Just as you can give them a sixty day notice to leave without reason.

    Most people don't realize that.

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    • They have to give you a 30 day notice where I am, but in certain circumstances, they can kick you out much quicker, can't they? they'll give you 24 hours to get out if they feel that you're a true harassment to your neighbor, which is how my neighbor sees me as now. I never meant to come across as harassing him, I need blood pressure pills to survive and I've had trouble getting work and money. But, I've never broken the law, unless me knocking on my neighbor's door endlessly begging for loans for my BP pills and gas for my car is considered unlawful.

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      • They could kick you out sooner, but it would require LEO to do that, and only if warranted. Otherwise LEO will just come and tell you to leave the guy alone. And if they have to come back a 2nd time, you'll get a pair of shiny bracelets to wear, and a free ride to jail in a really cool looking police cruiser. Again, that could get you evicted sooner.


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  • it is ok to bother him just dont be surprised if he shoot you between the eyes. you may be the only problem in life he has . and well life is pretty short and all so yea its going to happen. see you in the funny papers

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  • Did you get the part about how I need my blood pressure pills, and that I'm trying to get a job but having trouble, and I'm waiting on my disability. I need my blood pressure pills to survive, how am I being a sponge?

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    • You can't expect your neighbor to support you. They have free clinics and medical care in most cities. Go there, because if your neighbor is annoyed now, he'll be even more annoyed in the future. You have a computer or at least access to one. Look up social services in your area and talk to them. Most blood pressure pills are generic and dirt cheap. Someone will help you. I apologize for calling you a sponge but every city has resources for people with no money to get at least basic medical care. Social services is the answer unless you live in the wilderness.

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      • It's OK about the sponge thing. I have gone to social services, I'm waiting on Medicaid and disability. My blood pressure pills are $40 a month, or $20 a week. CVS won't go any lower. Walmart pharmacy sells them for $30 a month, a little less, but their service is horrible. Also, I can't even get ahold of even 5 lousy dollars half the time.

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        • Big pharma is ripping you off buddy. Both generic ACE inhibitors and beta blockers are dirt cheap. I just bought 90 tablets of 20 mg enalapril for $9. And, I cut them in half with an inexpensive pill cutter. 10 cents per day. Call your doctor tell him expense is an issue.

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        • Medicaid is instant. It's a phone call. You have to be a troll or you have other resources which means you don't qualify.

          If you qualify for medicaid you get it right then and there after a 20 minute phone screening.

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          • I'm not a troll. I had meant that I hadn't done the phone screening yet. I guess with my other comment I lost my train of thought while typing about Medicaid due to me being so stressed out over my neighbor. I have already applied for disability though. I'm not a troll, I see no reason in the world why I would waste any time reaching out on this site about my neighbor problem if it wasn't really happening. Also, I prefer reaching out about my problems on these websites because I don't worry so much about the possibility of embarrassing myself with people that I will never see. Especially now after my neighbor, seeing what can happen when I'm going to people in my real life about my problems.

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            • Well, please give medicaid a call then. Its painless i had to do it for my dad last year. They will set you up immediately. Please leave your neighbor alone.

              As for food, there are food banks and community meals everywhere. Call 211 and they can help.

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        • I hope you don't have to wait too long. Apply for food stamps too. I wish you luck.

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          • Thanks. I don't know if you saw my other comment above about my neighbor now trying to get me thrown out of my apartment for bothering him too much. Can he succeed in doing that from what I've told you I've done?

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            • If he has asked you not to knock on his door yes. You could even be arrested for being a nuisance.

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            • I doubt it. But if it's gone that far, stay clear of your neighbor completely and if you feel it would help, tell the management that you won't be knocking on his door again. I doubt they would evict you. But if t comes to that, go down there and explain the situation and that you will not be asking him/her again. You meant no harm so I don't see how the could evict you as long as you stop doing it. They generally have to give you one or more warnings first anyways. Again, good luck!

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    • what would Jesus do. oh yes , a man that does not work shall not eat and a man that shall not eat shalt surely die. if god wanted you to have BP pills he see you got them. does he not provide for the birds of the air?

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      • It's true, God only helps those who help themselves. But, I have tried to help myself, I've been trying to get work, I've just been unsuccessful. I still shouldn't have bothered my neighbor so much, my problems, even though they're health, still aren't his problem. In today's world, it's every man for himself, I guess. It's not that people aren't nice enough to help, it's that they just don't have the time or the energy to deal with the stress of it anymore in today's more hectic than ever world. People also trust each other less than ever now.

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        • no, in all times its everyman for himself. its better now that 4 billion humans are living better than French Kings 300 years ago. 2.4 billion have no toilet and you demand your neighbor get you some BP tablets. if you dont find work soon jesus will be proven correct,

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          • You're right. I don't know why me and other people get into the habit of saying how much meaner and more fucked up people are today than 30, 50, or 100 years ago. When I think about it, nobody trusted each other, for example, during the Depression in the 30s, almost everybody was taking whatever they could get just to survive whether it meant stealing, conning, or hurting one another just to get what they want.

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