Is it ok to marry my gf knowing she had multiple fwbs in the past?

My GF had many FWB partners in the past. It kinda bothers me. But we both love each other. Is it ok to marry her? Is it safe to marry her? I hope she won't get bored of me some day. Also, I'm a virgin.

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  • Like the saying goes, "Don't hate the player, hate the game".
    If you had been out there and gaining experience and if she was a virgin, what would you tell her ?
    Pretty much everyone has a past that someone else may not care for, but such is life. You will HAVE to get past it, or it will always bother you. Look at the bright side, she can teach you to make it happen how she likes it. But seriously if you cannot get past her past, I would suggest you do not marry her. That would be a DAMN near sure fire short-lived marriage. Work past the issues that bother you before walking down the isle, unless that isle is walmar t or something crazy wild and fun.

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  • As long as she is loyal to you now, who cares about the past? She just knows how to give a good blowjob.

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  • I suggest a longer 'courtship', and take your time getting to know each other better, PRIOR to marriage, since you seem to be "undecided".

    It's not fair, for you, to hold her sexual history, against her, especially since you've had none. Not a fair comparison!
    I mean, if she was the "town pump" or something similar, then yeah... that might be a problem.

    The fact she had sex, with others, BEFORE you, means nothing. Almost every couple we know, has had "sport-fucks" before they got married. No biggy !! What they do, AFTER marriage, is super important, when it comes to being honest/faithful to your spouse, after marriage.

    If you date for a longer period, you will accomplish several things:

    1). Because of her "past", you can 'test' her faithfullness. I think this is what's 'bothering' you, right? Please understand, however, that MOST people, prior to marriage, HAVE had sex, with "others".

    2). You can gain some sexual experience, since you're a virgin. Sexual compatibility is a HUGE factor, in a successful relationship/marriage. Just ask divorced people.

    3). Both of you can focus on what you share, in common, but also, the differences, which may suggest a not-so-perfect "match"

    4). There's no rush, here, so take your time. Whether you ultimately break up, OR get married, you will have made an informed, thoughtful decision.

    Good Luck to you both !

    P.S. She isn't holding YOUR (lack of) sex life, against you, so don't do it to HER.

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  • Friend with benefits don’t work out because some one gets attached and want more or end up finding a new partner. Tell her ur concern and to mAke a prenup clause that if this happens u get everything in the devorice

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  • You'll never turn a whore into a housewife.

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    • That's fucking rude.

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      • I think it actually has a grain of truth in it. I wouldn't say it quite as he said it but I'm not sure I'd trust someone who'd been flitting from one person to the next throughout their formative years to settle down if they ever got with me.

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      • So sue me.

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    • Her experiences don't necessarily make her a "whore". The only thing we know about her is that she has had some friends with benefits. I wouldn't want to be so hard on her unless she has a history of cheating on her ex-boyfriends, and or a history of going after guys who are taken, and by taken I mean married, or in relationships.

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      • People are creatures of habit. She obviously has different views of sex than the OP. You're expecting her to go from a history of no-strings hook ups to committed monogamy. Good luck with that.

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    • Lol I used to be a whore and now I'm a better housewife than any of my goody goody friends who constantly whine about not having ever "lived"

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  • No, do not do it.

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  • how long have you known her?

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  • Have you been honest with her about your misgivings about her past? Maybe she won't want to marry someone who's concerned about stuff which is none of his business.

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