Is it ok to only be attracted to much older men?

I'm a girl and i'm not sexually attracted to guys my age at all. The best kiss i had was with a 52 year old guy who is 30 years older than me. My frustration (lol) is that most of the "good older men" are already taken. Do you think this is normal and is there hope for me? XD

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  • There is hope there is hope just don't go for married men

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  • Considering the divorce rate for men in that demographic, and given the way most men of that age would jump at the chance to be involved with a woman in her twenties, I really think you're exaggerating your problems.

    Of course, it largely depends on your definition of "good older man". If that only applies to millionaires with toned, perfect bodies who are monogamous to a fault, then you will have problems.

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    • Thanks for the reply and the hope you gave me :D seriously though...
      The men i would be looking for don't have to be millionaires, not even close, just have a steady job. They don't have to have the perfect bodies, but they should be healthy and fit and do some sports. But that is only the physical point of view, intelligence is number 1, to be honest, followed by a good sense of humor. Also, yeah, they should be monogamous :)

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      • I'm a 60 year-old guy and I truly am surprised that you're having problems locating such men.

        Maybe the problem is that you're not hanging out in the right places?

        Here's an article that might have been written just for you:

        http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-copeland/best-places-to-meet-men_b_6976670.html

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        • This is amazing! I am very grateful!
          And, yeah, still learning about where to meet them. I met the 52 year old guy in a night club and he was a foreigner (yeah, yeah, i know how that sounds :P), but now i am pretty tired of "crazy nights out" and would just like to enjoy a dinner with someone whom i can consider a grown man.
          In Croatia, though, the men i like seem to be a rarity, or are already taken. That can mostly be my mindset because while i am here i think, "no need to bother, i won't find anybody anyway here". And then when i go to Rome or London, i totally own the city, but i never used it as a tool to meet the men i would like to meet the most. Instead, i just like meeting as much people as i can and making somebody's day at least a little bit brighter. This is the first time i am fully confident in what i want and this post just gave me a whole new world of possibilities :)

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  • There's nothing wrong with that. As a woman in her mid-20s I also find myself more attracted to older men. I would personally never date one and do occasionally find guys my age attractive as well, but it's the older ones that catch my eye more often.

    Do what works for you, just be safe and smart about it :)

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  • As a single 50 year old who likes women in their 20s you have made my day a happier one.

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    • Do you think there are more 50 year olds who like 20 year old girls or vice versa? :)

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      • I think it depends how well you get along with people. I'm very social 46 yr old single guy myself who enjoys being a people person.I've always been.I get along with all ages of people.To me everyone I get to know is like taking a vacation somewhere you've never been.It's always fun.
        I too would like to meet someone younger as well.I think us older guys have a lot someone like you can learn from.Having been around this long we've experienced a lot that one younger than us needs.
        As far as experince,I'm more of a hands on kinda guy as a multi tradesman,artist (stone sculptor)and having been a a president for a non-profit organization for three four terms.And now an alternative board of director for another non-profit organization.
        And having so many friends that I've met doing all of what I do.I enjoy younger people as well.To they are like a new horizon.The more you get you get to one and depending on how well,it only gets more beautiful and brighter the more you inspire them.
        I didn't mean to attract anyone at one of the many places I've worked,I did.She was in her early 20's also.She is beautiful.And yes,I did like her.After I left the job,one of my former coworkers told me what she thought of me.
        I was surprised and thought,'Wow'.I only wished I had stayed,but I have an aging father that needed me states away where I'm originally from that I went home to like I had promised him since losing my late mother to a bad vehicular accident 4 years ago.
        So in those ways I do have an idea what you mean and I think it's normal.Just like anyone out there that appreciates younger people that are attracted to them, like myself,it also makes me think and feel lifes well worth living.
        So thank you.You've already made my day.I hope I've done as well for you.

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        • Lovely comment, thank you for taking the time!
          Firstly, i'd like to express my condolences for the loss of your mother. What you are doing for your father is honorable! I lost my sister to a car accident 3 years ago...
          Secondly, i feel the same way - meeting new people opens doors to new worlds. One of the greatest gifts in this life is how if i decide to go in any major city in the world, chances are i probably know somebody there, either friends or friends' friends so i am never alone. I am very lucky in that sense because my parents traveled a lot and i grew up with people from many different cultures.
          It is very cool to know there is somebody out there like you, so thank you once again! :) here's to our futures! Haha :)

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      • I think the number of older men who like younger girls massively outnumbers the number of younger girls who like us. I'm 40 (maybe too young for you lol)

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      • Yes. Probably more than would admit it!

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      • I think being physically attracted to women in their 20's is natural but as a 43 year old man i wouldn't want to date one. I doubt i'd have anything in common with them, or anything to talk about. At least in the 18-27 year old range.

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        • It depends on the individuals.. Lots of things to have in common that aren't age-specific. Lots to talk about. Millions of years of human history that's pretty much the same whether you're 20 or 90! Music, dancing, life!.. I've just spent the weekend at a festival, dancing the sun up in a techno tent with people of all ages.

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          • I get that, my best friend is 15 years older than me. Yes, the right woman could be mature enough I suppose, but i don't really keep up with trends or shit like that, prefer a quiet life etc.., and an immature woman would just drive me crazy. I guess i am focusing on that.

            Ok Summer, I'm available 😂😂

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        • Maybe with a few you would have something to talk about. For example, i have many friends 40+ and we understand each other great. I guess i would say i am an old soul :)

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  • The attraction is normal, but find someone closer to your own age. People grow at different rates at different stages of their lives, and if you can't both grow together as one it won't last. Only heartache at the end for the vast majority.

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  • Sex should not be your concern, I hope so.

    You kissed an old man and you attracted to him, what if you kiss a 37 year old man with the same feeling you had with a 52 year old guy?? Not an issue though but if your taking it serious in mean of getting married to him than don't count kiss only because its only a physical attraction look for other factors so that you may live comfortable and happy life. Good luck!

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  • I've dated, and had sex with, several of the younger women servers and hostesses from the sports bar I go to, and, it's usually them starting it. I do joke around and become friendly with, and give rides home when asked, but usually..They're the ones initiating the interest and hands-on stuff. Went outside for a smoke (her, not me) and chat with a very cute hostess a few months ago, so she could vent about the night, etc, and after crushing out half a cig and spraying herself off..Laid a full, on her tippy toes liplock on me that got me going.

    I ended up taking her home after her shift. My home, not hers.

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