Is it ok to sometimes regret about being a parent?

Don't get me wrong,I love my daughter more than I even love myself but the fact that I'm not together with her father just makes me think to myself what if i just went for the abortion,maybe my life would be easier..Father of my baby is a on and off dad,he's with someone else now..probably happy so I'm the only one going through the struggle to raise her by myself,more of a single mother and sometimes I just regret my decision to have a child out of wedlock... not sure if it's ok to feel this way.

Is It OK To?
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  • Feelings are one thing. But she’s already here now. So don’t leave her.

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  • Sounds normal as long as it doesn't affect how you parent your child, who didn't ask to be born. Failed contraception is a good reason for an abortion so I'm wondering why you didn't have one at the time?

    It seems to me that your normal resentment at being a single mum is being directed at your child rather than the other parent.

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  • Hes the one missing out, you're amazing for doing it alone!

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  • My parents got divorcced when I was 4... My mom didnt get remarried until I was 7. I was spoiled when she was single and didnt want to give her up to someone else.
    Just get ready for some attitude if you ever go back to the market!

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  • Keep your head up! Never fear, you are the best parent for your daughter that ever could be!! Being a parent is a challenge and it's completely normal to question things sometimes.

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  • Learn to think in advance.

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  • I suggest u watch the movie 3 generations and pay attention to the characters relationships and how all that matters is having loving people who want to be there by your side. Seeing your child grow with your support should be your one concern

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  • U don't need a man you have your daughter

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  • Ur terrible. My mom hates me. And it reflects. I feel unwanted

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  • What type of birth control were you using?

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    • Depo

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      • Yeah, my mom got pregnant plenty of times on depo too. She had me while she was on the pill before switching to depo lol.

        The thing is, there's a consequence to both sides on this. Though raising a child takes a toll on you, abortion messes with your mind. It plagues you with the, "what ifs," questions more so than now. At least with your baby here you only have the, "what if I had an abortion?" Without her, "what kind of person would she have been? Would she have had my eyes? My hair?"

        I'm pro-choice, but I wish people warned mothers about the depression abortion brings. They promise you freedom, but you only have that if you're okay with the fact you killed your child. Without that peace of mind, the littlest amount of regret/doubt can destroy you from the inside out.

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  • lol for starters I'm 23 I think I still have a life ahead of me..I was born and raised in a very stable and loving home..both parents present..the guy I have a child with, I've been dating him for over 4years before i got to that point..the thing is when i got pregnant we just fell apart..you just never know how people are until you get into a situation.

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    • That’s exactly the excuse my birth mother made. Then she dumped me and now I’m screwed for life. I have no reason to live and I destroy everything around me. Don’t make a monster out of your innocent little girl.

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      • that's messed up but I damn i see myself in her..can't spend two hours away from her and I have people helping me out..it's sad that it happened to you. but I would never do that to her.m

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  • Baby has a daddy and you picked him for your baby. just because you did a horrible job picking a dad out of the billions of men doesn't mean you have to be the worst mother. i bet you miss the bad boy cock though and the guys wont look at you much as hook up material now. Really , you dont have to be a terrible mother. you can raise this child alone without help and when you are 40 years old and the child moves off get a cat or somthing. BTW did you have a dad? i think thats a good question. did your mother pick a good one for you is what im getting at here.
    this child , no matter who the daddy is , can never ever be more your child than the baby already is now. Even if the dad was a rapist its still half you. good luck . i wish the glorious education system had taught you how to pick a winner father but you instead were taught crap.

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