Is it okay, I know my friends suicide plan?

My friend from Sweden is always talking about how he's going to kill himself and shows me his pills he's saved up and the rope he plans to hang himself with. He's told me his plan in exact detail...

Is me knowing assisting his suicide?

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  • Well I personal would say yes if you don't do anything about what you know. Recently a piece of shit in America told her boyfriend that he was worthless and to kill himself. She got like 2.5 years in prison for that. I guess what I'm saying is do something.

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    • There's nothing I can do that I've already tried. Since he's in another country I can't call him or anything. I've doubtlessly tried to bring him out of it, but now all he's doing is emotionally abusing me.

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      • You can call him for free using whatsapp, Skype, google hangouts, Kageshi etc

        Additionally you can let him know the mental health services available in Sweden.

        Imagine you were in his situation . It is the worst pain in hell to help him now but the pain he is in is even worse. You would rather anything than having his death weigh on u the rest of your life knowing you could've done more

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  • If he keeps talking about it and never does it, he is most likely looking for attention.

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  • i have mine all planed out just in case i need to use it.. if i developed a medical condition i have 2 nitrous oxide tanks hey will take me out hope i never need them....

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  • Don't you have him on facebook? Maybe you can contact all his friends on there

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    • He doesn't have any friends, but me.

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      • Facebook friends?
        If he has a facebook acount and he only has you on you it's clearly a fake account

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        • Not everyone talks on Facebook. I hardly use Facebook myself.

          I never said he only had me on Facebook, I believe he has his family.

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  • You're not really assisting, buy you are complicit: you know he has this plan and you're doing nothing about it. If your friend has developed a detailed plan, that doesn't sound good.

    To some extent, I agree with Kevinevan: people should be allowed to kill themselves if they want. For some people, it's an entirely rational and reasonable thing to do.

    However, a lot of people who suicide are locked in a very dark place and can't see a way out because they are so depressed. If they manage to move to a more realistic view of themselves and the world, they can find life enjoyable and they (and those who know them) are happy they didn't kill themselves.

    If you pass on your information to someone who knows your friend in real life, your friend may well be very annoyed with you. But there are many ways to kill yourself, so it's not like you'd be thwarting some life-long dream of his. If he really wants to do it, he could just step in front of a truck the next time he's walking along the road. (Totally shitty thing to do to the truck driver, but many suicidal people are completely selfish. Being totally inside your own head has that effect.)

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    • He originally was going to off himself last year in October, but I feel like I was the selfish one here by making him stay. I have a history of people who've abandoned me and I'm very afraid of it happening again. I'm also not the type of person that outwardly shows affections and says I care a lot (how I was raised).

      I told him yesterday of a quote I heard hoping he'd at least understand the consequences of his action.

      "Suicide doesn't end pain. It transfers it to your loved ones."

      He said it was true, but then said something along the lines that it's good for getting back at people not caring and making them suffer. I'm kind of a guardian angel, i know it's people's will or as my friend says "dying how and when you want" and i shouldn't be so selfish, but there's more to life once you find the light at the end of the tunnel.

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  • Do anything

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    • How? How do you help someone that won't bother to listen to care?

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      • You can call him for free using whatsapp, Skype, google hangouts, Kageshi etc

        Additionally you can let him know the mental health services available in Sweden.

        Imagine you were in his situation . It is the worst pain in hell to help him now but the pain he is in is even worse. You would rather anything than having his death weigh on u the rest of your life knowing you could've done more.

        I know it is annoying as hell to help people who act like this, but imagine you were him.

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  • Do something for god sake it sound like a cry for attention all you need to do is give him attention just in case just make him feel wanted that's he probably wants don't just sit there allowing him to kill himself for gods sake.

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    • I can't. Do anything. It's an online friendship. He lives in another country. No matter what I say he won't listen.

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      • Search him up on face book and find family and friends

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        • I'm friends with him on Facebook already, but that's not going to help because I'm his only friend and his family all speak and type in Swedish. And I can't.

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  • Why is he showing you his plans? That screams "cry for help" if you ask me.

    That being said if someone wants to off themselves I say let them.

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    • I'm starting to understand what you mean. Everyone has their own freedom, if life doesn't work for you, then why keep struggling?

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