Is it okay that i still love the person who cheated on me?

I got cheated on for over a year and I didn't know about it, the day I knew she told me we should break up as she says was not good for me. she says she still loves me but I'm just too weak.
she wants to break up because she thinks she is not worthy of me anymore

Is It OK To?
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  • She can say she loves you until she's blue in the face, but actions speak much louder than words, and her behaviour hasn't been loving or respectful.

    Some would forgive a one-off impulsive fling in some circumstances, but you say she was fucking around on you for a year. That involves planning, a helluva lot of lying and a total disregard for her relationship with you. If you enjoy being treated like shit, stick with her. She's already demonstrated that she can't be trusted and you've demonstrated that you're incapable of detecting her deceit, so you can be damn sure she'll soon be up to her old tricks again.

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    • I really want to let go but she keeps on holding a little bit so that I don't and that's really frustrating. I don't want to be with her but at the same time, I'm incapable of doing so. what can I do?

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  • I don’t think anyone can ever cheat on someone they truly love. You wouldn’t be able to hurt someone like that. Plus it’s her who neglected you for others you can’t be actually happy and love someone then go and destroy trust like that. She wants more dicks than just one. If she did it for a whole year you can bet it’ll keep happening. She can’t be trusted to stay with one man.

    The day you knew? So did she not even fess up just keep hiding it to try and get away it for even longer. You can still love someone who’s put you through hell but what matters is that you move on and find someone who you can love and trust.

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    • I just hope I can move on. but I keep thinking about letting him go to that other guy. I just don't want to take her away like that.

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      • Yeah don’t wanna see her with someone else but wanna let her go (if that’s what you’re saying). Well if she wants to be with multiple men it’s best to let her do her thing cause you know it’ll never work. You’ll move on, times a healer.

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  • Run. Don't think about it. Just run. Someday you'll be thankful when you've found a good woman.

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  • I wouldn't recommend it but its up to you.

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  • It's okay to still have some feelings for the person, but you should not ever take her cheating skank-ho ass back. Never take back someone who treated you badly. You deserve better than her.

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    • She never treated me badly tho. always been caring for me. but at the same time cared much for the other guy also. and it made me think I've been taken for granted.

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